2 year old rarely eats food, needs bottle and milk and drinks a lot of water
My son completely refuses to eat food. If I forcefully insert it in his mouth, he tries to vomit and throws the food out of his mouth.
He loves milk in his bottle, which we give him only when he is ready to sleep. He won't sleep unless we give him that bottle with milk.
We try to give him food which we normally eat, we totally avoid sugary foods, chocolate, everything 'fancy' or 'junkfood' which is damageable.
Till now we could not understand what his favorite food is, except for his bottle and milk.
He eats whenever he is extremely hungry and at that time also refuses to eat unless we forcefully put the first morsel in his mouth, then he continues for some time and when he gathers enough energy, tries to throw up and avoids and runs and cries.
Another thing is that he drinks a lot of water, a lot means a lot for his age.
How do we make him eat our food, is there any training or trick? And how to remove that bottle attachment?
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Ok, not from a professional, but from a parent's perspective:
It seems you have built yourselves a nice battlefield with your son - I sense a power play and a lot of unnecessary tension. A vicious cycle.
First step:
Stop this right now.
That means, no yelling, no fusing and, above all, no force feeding. Try to eliminate this battle ground completely. Mealtime is no longer a time for discussion or arguing about food. Its not about behaviour and not about control. (For now. We address proper table manners and other issues way later.)
Your pediatrician gave you the ok and the fact that your son hasn't starved himself yet is another indicator that he somehow gets enough food - otherwise your doctor would have registered his concern.
So what can you do?
At 2, he should be able to feed himself and to drink from a cup, so all milk/water bottles need to go. Perhaps except for the bedtime bottle, but that's a completely different issue and you should address this another time. I say he should feed himself because your (force) feeding must stop now.
Go back to square one. Your child seems to have never have grasped the concept of "eating" or "mealtimes", so do what you would do for a smaller child - except for actively feeding him.
Decide on five to six time frames when you will offer food. These times should include the family meal times, the others are appropriate snack times like mid-morning or mid-afternoon.
Offer small bits of food on a plate (plastic, in case of tantrums) or in a bowl. Do not overthink what you offer or nutrition yet, the goal is to make eating "normal" for him. You might offer a range of food, ideally starch, a protein and some fruit/veggie, but a few leftover pasta shapes will do nicely, too. Even some crackers or a teaspoon of raisins. Make it easy for you, too. This is about offering, not about eating a well-balanced meal (yet). At family mealtimes, put small pieces of whatever you are eating on his plate. Some children love forks (again: soft plastic, preferably) and spoons, others use their fingers. Offer a small cup of juice or milk at mealtimes, if he drinks it and if it calms you.
And that's it. Do not urge him to eat or try. Do not coax, argue or pressure him to eat. Do not talk about how good X tastes or how healthy Y is. Be mentally prepared for a few very lean days. Dump uneaten food or offer it at the next mealtime. (That's the advantage of crackers or raisins...) If it helps, imagine him being sick - sick children may go for a few days without food, as long as they are drinking enough. Plus, he's still drinking his bedtime bottle. Encourage him to stay with you at the table for a while during family meals, but don't open another battlefield here - if he happily stays a few minutes, perhaps has a bite or two, that should be enough for the beginning.
And one side note: The caloric need / food intake of a two-year old is smaller than you probably think. Usually they have so much going on and to discover that eating is just a distraction to some of them. Also, a few bites at multiple meals really add up (as every dieter will know...).
Disclaimer:
I agree with your pediatrician that a healthy child will eat and won't suffer from a few days of fasting. But if your son still doesn't eat at least a bit after about a week, if you notice serious weight loss (a bit is ok for the initial re--training phase) or if he shows other symptoms that cause concern (e.g. unusual fatigue), talk to your pediatrician again.
It's hard to tell from the info in your question whether this is a medical issue or a behavioral one, or a combination of the two. It's clear that force-feeding is backfiring and not getting the desired result.
We've followed the advice of Ellyn Satter on The Division of Responsibility for Feeding Kids, and it's worked well for our 1-year-old so far.
The Division of Responsibility for babies making the transition to
family food:
The parent is responsible for what [type of food is offered], and is becoming responsible for when and where the child is fed [as opposed to on-demand feeding of infants].
The child is still and always responsible for how much and whether to eat the foods offered by the parent.
See more at: ellynsatterinstitute.org/dor/divisionofresponsibilityinfeeding.php#sthash.6M1hi8sV.dpuf After implementing this strategy, we got into fewer battles over food with our daughter, and she gradually became more interested in food.
As to the part of your question where you say your 2-year-old drinks a lot of water, just be sure to get a blood sugar test, as this could be a sign of diabetes.
Refer to: www.drgreene.com/qa-articles/diabetes-normal-thirst/
Firstly, don't force-feed your child, he is just 2 now.
1. Make a routine and follow the pattern daily, starting with breakfast, brunch, lunch, mid snacks, evening snacks, then dinner and lastly a glass or cup of milk(avoid giving bottle). You can bring a different type of glass or cup(especially for kids with some cartoon or design) which are very easily available online as well as in-store. Kid get attracted to these things easily.
2. Keep various kinds of snacks handy which are healthy as well as tasty like banana chips, soya sticks, lotus stem chips, make cheese paratha, make Rava dosa, etc.
3. Kids never sit at one place and have their meals. Your son is just 2 yrs old. If he likes to eat his meal while he is playing then do it that way. Right now your motto is to feed him proper food. As and when he will grow you can start teaching him table manners.
4. Drinking lots of water is a good thing. So don't worry.
5. There is this one more trick I used to do with my kid was, I used to play with him his fav toys or games or activity and feed him during this playtime.
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