How to console a baby who prefers to cry alone?
I might be over worrying this issue but I have realized whenever anything say like he hurts himself- not bad just during playtime and he starts crying, instead of coming to me for comfort or consolation he will rather prefer to walk away crying and go to his room.
I have to call and follow him so that I can console him, it will take him like minutes before he accepts my consolation. I really feel sad about this.
Is this okay?
I've always seen kids run to their parents for consolation whenever something happens to them. My son doesn't.
He's almost 20 month's now.
Update: no other strange behavior. He surely listens when I ask him to stop doing something - I'm not hard on him, he's still small. The only thing I can say is that he doesn't like being assisted. He's already shown some strong independence traits, can this be the reason. Do independent kids behave like this?
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Let him. Everyone is different. Don't force yourself on him because he is learning how to be a person and we'll soon be learning more about boundaries. You're his first relationship. Would you like it if you wanted to be alone to calm yourself down and someone forced you to talk with them or hug them?
Learning that it's okay to be on his own and self soothe is important and sounds like he's doing it well. It's not about you, it's about him.
When he calms down discuss his feelings with him. Talk about what happened and begin teaching how to identify feelings like sad and mad. He won't get everything you're saying but he'll pick up a lot.
Sounds good. Here's an interesting technique that I believe could help here. When he goes off, be near and tell him that you need a hug. If no response, repeat, "I NEED A HUG", and wait, if no response, do it a third time, I need a hug. If still no, tell him you will be waiting when he's ready for a hug. AND give him his space. You could also role play at home different pretend scenarios where he could help you with your "boom". Appeal to his inner helper. Take turns treating each other. Great activity to take ten minutes together, uninterrupted, focused.. to play together. Best to you and your family.
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