: What do you do when neighbor children that you don't know start coming over to your house to play with your kids? Edit - May 30, 2014 Details on this question can be found below, but here is a summary of my questions:

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There is always the hazard that these kids are coming over for the toys rather than friends, but this shouldn't be a concern in itself. If your kids enjoy the company and these kids behave then it can be very positive to have a bunch of children all playing together.

I would agree that you need to set ground rules though- any guests should have to get permission from you first, you should get to know their parents and agree how you handle issues, accidents or discipline requirements.

As we have a very big garden we often find over twenty kids in it during the summer. My rules include simple safety ones such as no more than two people on the trampoline at once, agreed return times with parents, everyone either leaves at dinner time or eats with my kids etc. to try and make it more about the social aspect and less about random strangers abusing hospitality.

Although on SE we want a single question per post (otherwise you can end up with multiple questions all answering a single part correctly) I'll have a stab at your full list:

How do I approach the parents of these children?

Tell the kids they can't come over unless you meet their parents first. Ideally accompany them to their house, or get the parent to come over to drop their child off.

What should I say to the parents?

Let them know your house rules, and ask them if the kids have any special requirements you should know about.

Do I work with the parents to set rules for their kids?

Nope - your house, your rules. If they don't like it they can keep their kids away.

Should I let kids play with my daughter who seem less interested in her and more in her toys?

If they cheer your daughter up and don't abuse the privilege, yes.

How can I make it clear to these children that they are not to play at our house (ex: in the back yard) while we aren't home?

Just tell them. Ban them from coming if they misbehave. This is actually pretty simple.

How can I keep the number of children within a manageable level? I know I don't feel comfortable about having 7 kids over.

Again - just tell them. Your rules, so you can say, "Enough" and send them home whenever you want.

And my final rule is that I always get the biggest water cannon... very important, this one!